Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday! Family, friends, good food – and no presents to buy. To make it your best holiday ever, consider these organizing tips:

• Choose your preferred style: formal with everyone dressed up and using their best manners – or a more informal relaxed style. If you’ve invited more people than your dining table will seat, decide whether to add extra tables or a set up a buffet and use couches and occasional chairs for seating. Arrange for extra chairs if necessary.

• Keep in mind the ages of the people involved – and choose a time for the meal that will fit their needs – young children may get too tired if you wait to sit down at 1:00 pm. Consider seating for children based on ages. Teenagers might enjoy the day more seated together.

• Ask guests to identify their favorite dish – include as many of them as possible. (If someone wants a pecan pie, and you don’t like to bake them, check out your local restaurant or bakery.) Don’t assume you have to do everything – why not invite guests to bring a favorite dish? (Or ask them to bring a table centerpiece or bottle of wine.)

• Plan your menu well in advance, make a shopping list, and purchase non-perishables at the same time you do your regular shopping. If you’re planning to use a fresh turkey, place your order early.

• Get out the table linens before Thanksgiving morning – make sure you have the sizes you need, and check to see if they need to be laundered, or ironed.

• Select table decorations. If you have children, involve them in the planning and execution of the celebration. (My children loved to make turkey cookies!) Consider disposable Thanksgiving napkins.

• To save clean-up time, or if the family china is insufficient to accommodate the guest list, attractive holiday disposable tableware is a viable option. Be sure you have enough serving dishes and utensils for the quantities you will be serving.

• If you’re having a sit-down dinner, consider setting your table the day before to minimize last-minute stress. Make a checklist of things to be done on Thanksgiving day in order or priority.

• Determine your clean-up strategy prior to dinner. Do you want everyone to chip in and help – or would you prefer to spend the time with the family – and clean it up when they’re gone?

• When the day is over, make notes about anything you wish you had done differently – file your notes away for next year, and give Thanksgiving for another special day.

h2>About the Author

© Barbara Hemphill is the author of Kiplinger’s Taming the Paper Tiger at Work and Taming the Paper Tiger at Home and co-author of Love It or Lose It: Living Clutter-Free Forever. The mission of Hemphill Productivity Institute is to help individuals and organizations create and sustain a productive environment so they can accomplish their work and enjoy their lives. We do this by organizing space, information, and time. We can be reached at 800-427-0237 or at www.ProductiveEnvironment.com
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I’m sure you read a lot of times this sentence : you need first to love yourself.
But what does that mean? Is it about getting you a hot chocolate when you are cold? Is it about getting you a new dress when you feel like it? Is it doing whatever you want when you want it? Is it about putting warm clothes on when it’s freezing outside?

Loving yourself means to learn to treat you like a loving parent would do with his child.

When you are an adult, and I assume you are, you still have an Inner Child inside you. These are your emotions. At that level you still react like a child of 3-4 years old. Your emotions can not get older or mature. But you can get mature. You can learn how to respect them and how to handle them. You can learn how to take care of this Inner Child.

When you are not aware of your Inner Child, you try to live in an adult world like a 4-year old boy or girl. You feel all alone, afraid of the big nasty world there outside, not knowing what to do, where to ask for help, how to protect you. This is a very difficult way of doing. You will always feel afraid, fearful, doubtful, tired. It is hard to try to survive as a child in a grown up world. You will feel angry and afraid most of the time, and lost.

Why is that? Because nobody takes care of that Little Child inside you.
Let’s say your name is Charlotte. You are 42 years old. Inside you lives the little Charlotte. She’s four. When you are busy in the outside world taking care of other people, of business, of getting around, of doing a thousand things every day, the little Charlotte will feel overlooked. When you’re always running to help others, to make sure their needs are fulfilled, you will be exhausted every night and cry in your bed. Sometimes you will get temper tantrums. You will feel very angry without any reason (but still there is one, a big one!).

All these big emotions are attempts from your Inner Child to get your attention.
Imagine you have, besides your children, husband, collegues, parents, friends, a little four-year old girl named Charlotte. Nobody ever notices her. Nobody takes care of her. Whenever she tries to tell something and get some attention, you shout to her “Shut up!”. You say “I have to take care of my parents, my work, my husband, my paperwork, my friends, my other children, my house… I don’t have time for you!”

How do you think she will feel? What do you think she will do? First she will try to get your attention by showing big emotions. She will cry a lot, she will scream and shout, maybe she’s getting aggressive from time to time. You think you’re angry at the outside world, but it is Your Inner Child that is angry with YOU! She’s sad and angry because you don’t care about her! You act as if she doesn’t exist! Nothing is worse than acting as if our Inner Child doesn’t exist. This means trying to live as if WE don’t exist.

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Most of us live by values. Our relationship is also based on shared values that are dear to both the partners. What are the values you live by? They may be- Honesty, speaking truth, helping others, understanding others, caring for others, being compassionate and such other values that you may be sharing with your partner.

Do you live by these values in your work life? Many of us compromise our values in our work life to achieve quick results and money. When it comes to living by the values in work, we do not think about scarifying the values to reach targets and achieve quick growth. are you also doing the same?

How many of us do not lie? How many of us behave carelessly towards others/ how many of us cheat others for small gains? We are ready to sacrifice most of our values to reach our material goals. We justify all our actions. But this gives us dissatisfaction. we are not happy because we do not feel accomplished by getting success in this way. This dissatisfaction affects our relationship.

Slowly we also begin to compromise on our values with our partner. In love, we say- I will care for you. In love we promise total faithfulness. In love, we promise that we will sacrifice our comfort to make our beloved comfortable. In love we promise many things including never hurting our darling. When it comes to living by these values, we break most of them. We bring down our love to a give and take and justify our wrong actions with every possible argument. As that becomes apparent to our partner, they object to that and friction begins. This friction may lead to break- up. The essential factor is to live by values in all areas of our life. Once we do that we get happiness and confidence. Our relationship thrives because of that.

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One of the greatest things about getting older is knowing yourself more. Once you have discovered 1. what you really love to do, 2. realized you have the power to create the life you have dreamed of and 3. have chosen to make a leap of faith, you are ready to manifest transformation in your life. Georgia O’Keefe once said, “I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life — and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing I wanted to do.” Experiencing and acknowledging fear is one of the most important steps we can take in our lives. Once we have stared these hairy monsters of doubt and confusion in the eyes, we can move on and release them. Once fear has been released we have all the possibilities and potential of the Universe in front of us. Anything we want is attainable and a life founded on passion, desire and love begins.

You Deserve The Best

Once I let go of the attitudes and beliefs that held me captive I learned to accept blessings from the Universe. Many times the god/goddess/creator/Grand Pubbah offers us gifts and we do not allow ourselves to take them. I have learned we all loved and there is an infinite amount of it. Each of us can simply allow the stream of unending love provide us with the divine support and inspiration that is available every moment for eternity.

“I offer you a basket of stars to encourage you to create your highest vision and follow your bliss wherever it leads.”-D.E.

This is a message from our higher selves, our guardian angels, the Cosmic Cookie. Who in their right mind says no to infinite encouragement and joy when it is offered? Only people who are obviously not in their right mind! There must be millions of crazy people out there since many of us make the choice to reject joy and love. Instead we accept negative attitudes and low self-esteem. Acceptance is one of our greatest hurdles in understanding our lives are meant to be bliss! We must accept this as truth, we deserve to be loved, to live full of joy, to do what we love every day. If we believe this to be true in our hearts and minds it will occur.

This is a Public service Announcement: HaHaHaHaHaHaaaaaaaaa!

Actress Katharine Hepburn once said, “I never lose sight of the fact that just being is fun.” The last and most important secret to doing what you love is to have fun, enjoy yourself, and laugh every day as much as possible. Have the courage to laugh at yourself. If you know you are loved and divinely supported then there is nothing to be embarrassed about. Doing what you love every day is not about living a perfect life or being a perfect person. I have come to see the hilarious nature of humanity as the key to our enlightenment. When I am able to laugh at my flaws and mistakes I have succeeded and I am living the mystery, the beauty of human potential. The process of changing my life and doing what I love, following my passion, is a wild ride. And some days when I stop for a moment I realize my hair is sticking up from going so fast and my butt hurts from riding for so long, but it is worth it for the rush, the thrill I feel. Take your own ride! Free yourself and let potential and love lead you.

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Diane English is the artist-visionary-mastermind-crazy woman behind the Great Cosmic Happy Ass Greeting Card Company. She believes the expression of humor is a direct path to longevity and in the power of the Universe’s unconditional love. For a good dose of laughter and inspiration visit http://www.greatcosmichappyass.com

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As I sit quietly, watching the sun sink behind the Blue Ridge Mountains, wrapped in
the warm spring air of North Carolina I take a moment to celebrate the changes in
my life. Change has brought joy, doubt, growth, passion and confusion to me
during the last few years, but I wouldn’t trade the opportunity to do what I love for
anything. The Buddha said “Your work is to discover your world and then with all
your heart give yourself to it.” My world is made of laughter, creativity and being
who I really am and believe me, I give everything I have to it. Each of us has the
chance to live the life we have always wanted, regardless of age, gender, color or
size; we just have to take it.

How I Discovered What I Truly Loved

For years I did what people do in the early years. I wandered, wondered and tried a
variety of career choices and jobs. Medical technician, graphic artist, metaphysical
bookstore owner-I was successful at all of these endeavors, but deep inside, hidden
from sight was what I loved most. The part of me that had been creating art since
childhood was buried beneath fear, misunderstanding and logic. While I managed
my existing business I read a book called The Artist’s Way, which unlocked a part of
me I had not known before. I began to focus on what I loved most in every spare
moment. The ideas exploded and the response from those around me was
encouraging and supportive. I saw change coming and decided I would take the
leap, I would trust and I would create the world I wanted to live in.

All The Power Lies Within You

When it came time to take action it was as if my guardian angel bopped me over the
head with a neon sign that said “This Way” and my vision suddenly became clear.
Everything we need to know is inside us. Our life experiences lead us to the present
situation and using what we’ve learned along the way is an important step. In my
14 years as a business owner I encountered many spiritual people and I noticed a
repetitive pattern humans can’t seem to stop: we take ourselves too seriously! You
know the attitude! I’m going to heaven and you’re not! My prayers have to be more
solemn than yours! The UFO’s are coming, run for your lives! Please! Lighten Up!
Like lightening, I suddenly knew what I wanted to do and I knew my whole life had
brought me to this place. So my new career was born and I dedicated myself to
spreading this message: laugh, create, follow your heart and be who you are
courageously! Unlock your own power and as Rumi stated, “Let the beauty of what
you love, be what you do.”

“You and I are essentially infinite choice-makers. In every moment of our
existence, we are in that field of all possibilities where we have access to an infinity
of choices.”–Deepak Chopra

Change happens a lot more easily when you believe in your ability to be a “choice-
maker”. I continue to see myself as a “choice-maker”. I choose to create, to laugh,
to believe in myself, to trust. Leap and the net will appear! Doing what I love has
transformed my world and filled it with things I had only dreamed and imagined
before.

Diane English is the artist-visionary-mastermind-crazy woman behind the Great
Cosmic Happy Ass Greeting Card Company. She believes the expression of humor is a
direct path to longevity and in the power of the Universe’s unconditional love. For a
good dose of laughter and inspiration visit http://www.greatcosmichappyass.com.

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Husbands can create a loving environment and successful marriage by showing their wives how much they are loved and cherished. In his ground-breaking book, “Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars,” John Gray outlined the important differences between men and women. One of his key findings is that wives love to be touched and held.

Wives love to be told, in a gentle and humble way, how important they are to their husbands. One of the most touching ways that a husband can show honor and respect to his wife is to write a personal wedding song for her. No matter if a husband has been married for a month or longer than 50 years, he can renew his marriage every day with a personal wedding song.

“What me sing? No way!” most husbands may say. “I can’t carry a tune, let alone do a solo.” While it may seem challenging, a personal wedding song is simply a love poem set to music. I know from personal experience of writing, recording and singing a wedding song to my wife, that it can be done. When I started, I had no guidance, just a gut intuition. All it takes to get started is to know what steps to take and then take the first step. Here are six steps every husband can take to show his wife what a treasure she is.

Step One. Acknowledge Your Wife

Write down five attributes that you love about your wife and admire her for. What five would you choose? Is she, an excellent listener, your best friend? Does she have a friendly and warm smile or a hilarious sense of humor? Does she love to surprise you? If you can list ten or more things, all the better.

Step Two: Write Down the Special Things She Loves

What does your wife treasure? My wife Cheryl loves purple, she loves to hold hands and be hugged, she is very action oriented, she is so thoughtful, she never forgets a family member’s birthday. She loves greeting cards, music, plays, going out to dinner. She is very wise about relationships. A personal wedding song should focus on what is unique and special to your wife and your relationship.

Step Three: Put Yourself and Your Feelings into the Song

I wrote a personal wedding song for my wife after 14 years of marriage. I titled it “Song of Our Marriage.” I wrote a touching refrain that honored her with a title, her role in my life and what that has done for me. The lyrics to the refrain go like this:

“Teacher of wisdom, you’ve shown me God’s face, your strength is gentle and fine as white lace. You listen with heart strings that sing out a song, it’s your love that makes me feel strong.”

Using your list in Step 2, choose several of your wife’s best traits and write down what they mean to you. If you need help with rhyming, you can get a Rhyming Dictionary. Or you can read books of poems or search the Internet through a Google Search to get a starter idea. Make sure to personalize your words, though, so that they come from your heart. You want to be authentic; a cheap copy of someone else passed off as your own may work against you.

Step Four: Make It Simple: Two Verses and a Refrain (more if you can)

Make your personal wedding song easy to sing, but unique to your wife. For example, remember the poems that start, “Roses are red, violets are blue?” You can expand that phrase into a verse, like:

“Roses are red, violets are blue,

I can’t see myself living without you.
You are my wife, the crown of my life,
my life would be empty without you.”

Step Five: Use a Familiar Tune for the Music

Did you know that is acceptable to “borrow” a melody (as long as you don’t sell it or claim it as your own) for your personal wedding song? In fact, if your wife has a special song that she likes, you might learn how to write lyrics that go along with it. If you get serious, you could find a musician or studio to help. When I wrote “Song of Our Marriage,” I figured out the melody by humming it, plunking out the keys on a piano and then finding a studio that produced the accompaniment. Use the Internet to find someone who can help. With downloadable MP3 files, you can actually produce a song on your PC.

Step Six: Sing the Song to Your Wife and Frame the Lyrics

Now comes the most important part – the delivery. Don’t write a personal wedding song and then stick it in your golf bag. Perform it for your wife. Record it. Frame the lyrics and hang the song in your bedroom or kitchen. For “Song of Our Marriage,” I created even a photo album with pictures of my wife in Lilac Park, in Disney World, with her friends, and more in several sections. Each section of the album reflected the verse and refrain from the personal wedding song.

There you have it, six steps to writing a personal wedding song for your wife. It takes work. If I can do it, you can do it too. Go ahead, take a risk. Your wife will be deeply moved by your touching gift and care for her.

About the Author

Dave Pipitone is a business owner, author, parent, husband and professional communications manager, writer and editor. Visit http://www.songofourmarriage.com
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When I talk to other singles or look at personal ads, I see a lot of people listing many physical qualities they would like to have in a mate. They want someone to be a certain age, make at least certain amount of money, have a specific eye color, be a certain height and so on and so forth.

I have to admit that for a long time I was quite judgmental towards those people and I would sometimes even resent online dating because I got so sick of looking at profiles of men in their mid to late 30s who wanted a woman that was between 21 and 30 years old. At the same time I was completely oblivious to the fact that I was rejecting guys who were too short for me or didn’t make enough money. All those judgments would only put me in a very disconnected place with myself and the rest of the world, to the point where I simply gave up looking and told everybody that online dating was not for me.

About a year ago I met someone I really liked. After a couple of dates where we had great time together he told me that he really likes me and enjoys talking to me but he cannot be in love with me because he only falls in love with women who have blue eyes. Needless to say, I was hurt, disappointed and even furious. Not to mention, I felt unattractive because my eyes are brown. After this scenario with that guy, all I kept seeing around me were men and women looking for love while having all those physical and external qualities in mind, unwilling to give a chance to anyone who doesn’t fit into that profile. And those men and women were either complaining about being single and not able to find someone or blaming the person they were involved with for not giving them what they need. I kept judging them, while at the same time I was one of them. And for some reason, blue eyes kept coming up as a factor enough times for me to come up with an expression: “What are you really looking for, true love or blue eyes?”

I continued to stay single and unhappy. I complained to my friends as well and when they told me that maybe I wasn’t ready for a relationship yet, I got mad at them for saying it. I didn’t know what it takes to be ready, and I didn’t know how long will it take for me to even know that I am ready. After all, it has been a long time since I’ve been in a relationship as is. And then it hit me. Most single people stay single and fantasize of someone with certain physical qualities because they are not ready to face the real fear of intimacy. And when they meet someone who is all those qualities, they think they found their ideal match. What they really fall in love with is the idea of being with that person while at the same time trying to change them into being what they want. That is not love, it is an obsession.

So how do you know if you’re ready for love? I have a test to answer this question. You may want someone with blue eyes, under 35 with athletic build and making a certain amount of money, but ask yourself: what is more important to you, being with someone who makes you happy or being with someone who has blue eyes? I understand and by no means exclude the possibility that you can have all of the above. But in order to get all of that, you must first really look at your priorities carefully. In other words, in order to finally meet someone who has all the physical qualities you desire and at the same time giving you all the love and healthy intimacy you need, love and intimacy must be of higher priority. This is how the universe works: if the blue eyes are your priority, then you will get the blue eyes with no guarantee of love. You can choose to go after someone because they meet all your criteria on the list, but you will not be satisfied. And if your priority is healthy relationship, intimacy and love, then you will get just that. If you give a person who does not meet all the things on your list a chance, guess what? If you don’t fall in love with him or her, you can always choose to not pursue the relationship, but if you do fall in love, the fact that they are too short or don’t have the blue eyes won’t even matter anymore.

I am not saying you should settle for less, settling and giving a chance are two different things. And I am not encouraging you to date someone you don’t like or even click with just because you feel like you’re being too picky and in order to be in a relationship you have to date everyone who asks you out. Not at all is that the case. You will be wasting your time. But if you meet someone whom you like or feel a certain comfort around or feel a connection with even if it’s not physical, and if they are interested in you, then give them a chance. You never know how it will turn out until you try. It may not be something you feel like doing, but it is what it takes to be open to love.

About the Author

Katherine Bouglai.
Personal Relationship Coach.
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Are you feeling frustrated with your relationships? Do you want a loving partner and seem to be unsuccessful in reaching your goal?

If you answered “yes” to either question, you may be sabotaging your efforts. As a Marriage, Family Therapist, I helped many clients, through a process I developed called HART (Holistic And Rapid Transformation), get in touch with their negative, self-defeating thoughts and change them to positive ones. Since beliefs are magnetic, they were then able to attract what they wanted.

The following are 20 unconscious reasons why you may be pushing away the relationship you desire and deserve, an example, and a positive thought to turn the negative belief into a positive one. If you recognize a negative thought is one of yours, then first imagine that you are deleting (erasing) it from your mind, and then say and write the positive thought. Keep repeating the affirmation until it becomes part of your automatic thinking.

1) I will get hurt if I am vulnerable. (Her first boyfriend broke off with her in high school.)

I am being vulnerable and I am safe because I believe that I am okay and lovable no matter what anyone says or does.

2) Men don’t like intelligent, successful women. (Her boyfriend rejected her when she was hired in a big company.)

I am attracting men who like intelligent, successful women.

3) I don’t deserve a loving relationship. (Her Dad left when she was five-years-old and she felt responsible.)

I am only responsible for myself, I am a good person, and I deserve a loving relationship.

4) Relationships do not fit my self-image. (She saw herself as unlovable because her dad never said he loved her or hugged her.)

I am lovable.

5) I can’t be me and be in a relationship. (Her mother told her that she gave up her dreams to be with her father.)

I am in a loving relationship and I am being me.

6) Men don’t like me when they get to know me. (She did not like herself and she projected that feeling on others.)

I like myself and men like me.

7) My friends will be jealous. (When she was a teen-ager, her friends rejected her when she became popular.)

I am in a loving relationship and my (true) friends are happy for me.

Relationships don’t last. (Her parents were divorced.)

I am in a lasting relationship.

9) Men try to control me. (Her brother and father were controlling.)

I am attracting a loving partner who supports me being me.

10) I am not good enough. (No matter what she did to please her mother, it was never enough.)

I am good enough.

11) Men are mean and abusive. (Her father was mean and physically and verbally abusive.)

I am attracting kind, loving men to me.

12) My mother will be jealous of me. (I am afraid that my mother will feel badly if I am happier than she is (or was).)

I am in a loving relationship and my mother is happy.

13) I am unattractive. (Her mother would often criticize her looks.)

I am attractive.

14) I am unimportant. (Her Dad was usually working and he spent very little time with her.)

I am important.

15) Men only want me for my body. (She is very attractive and men seemed to focus on her body.)

I am attracting a man who wants to be with me because he likes and loves who I am.

16) I can’t trust men. (Her father had affairs.)

I am attracting a partner I can trust.

17) I feel guilty for leaving my last partner. (She felt she did not deserve a loving relationship.)

I am a good person and I deserve a loving relationship.

18) There is no one out there for me. (She was attracting men that were not suitable for her.)

I am attracting my perfect partner at the perfect time.

19) I am afraid that I will have affairs. (She cheated on her first boyfriend.)

I trust myself to be loyal to my partner.

20) Men want me to be weak and submissive. (Her mother told her that she had to make men feel superior and let them win in sports.)

I am attracting a loving partner who wants me to be his equal.

If you related to any of the negative thoughts, cleared them, and said the positive thought, you probably feel better about relationships and yourself. If you still are not attracting what you want, then write down the following: “I can’t or won’t be in a loving relationship because____ (and finish the sentence).” Then do the same process as above. You do deserve a loving, healthy relationship. Go for it!

About the Author

Copyright 2007 by Helene Rothschild, MS, MA, MFT, a Marriage, Family Therapist, intuitive counselor, speaker, and author. Her newest book is, “ALL YOU NEED IS HART!”. She offers phone sessions, teleclasses, books, e-books, MP3 audios, tapes, posters, independent studies, and a free newsletter. http://www.lovetopeace.com , 1-888-639-6390.

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First of all, the normal hurdles that younger couples have to work their way through are seldom of concern. Careers are over for most seniors. Children are raised and have left home. Home buying and other major acquisitions were made in the distant past. Well, then, it sounds like all should be quiet on the romantic front, doesn’t it?

That’s not necessarily so. Seniors who have reached an advanced age, say past seventy, have often established some very strong opinions. One person put it to me this way…”There are a lot of ways to go to the mailbox.” It isn’t something that is often noticed on the surface. Habits become solidified and attitudes, opinions and reactions become pretty firmly entrenched without much fanfare. Long, comfortable marriages seem to support the “I Did It My Way” that Frank Sinatra once sang about.

Seniors who find themselves alone, usually because of the loss of a partner, don’t have current skills at dating and selecting a mate. How could they? And what worked in their late teens or early twenties is usually way beyond obsolete. Unfortunately, most “don’t know that they don’t know” and assumptions are usually rampant.

Dating often becomes a stiff affair involving a meal out with friends or alone and maybe a movie. More often than not, a marriage is contracted with no baseline of reality to hold it together. Each partner knows how things should be, which is how they always were in the past, right? Wrong! Issues of all kinds arise when no serious consideration is given to varying points of view.

The land of assumptions is the direct opposite of deep, investigative conversations. What should be seriously addressed are attitudes about sexual behavior, the handling of finances, the division of labor in the home and yard and how various adult children are going to be involved. And that’s just for starters.

Even when this is done, deep honesty may be by-passed. Telling it how it would be “lov-er-ly”…not how it is can be an easy trap to fall into when trying to win someone over. Often adult children react to a late in life marriage of a cherished parent differently than the hopeful parent thought they would. In other words, they may be hard to second guess.

One senior couple I know quite well sailed into marital bliss with the wife being promised “nooners” by a husband who was sure she would be the cure for his sexual impotence. He also guaranteed that his grown kids would love anyone he loved and that turned out to be a bust. They hadn’t talked about finances because neither of them was comfortable with the subject, so another hurdle loomed. A decade later they are doing very well but it looked, from my vantage point at least, like it was a long, uphill climb.

What seems to work is to take it slow and easy, and see what evolves. Neither partner can be a replacement for the one who is gone. New attitudes may have to be considered and new patterns created. When seniors marry it is not usually a rerun of an early-in-life romance where the pieces just fall in place automatically. It is new and different and needs to be treated with great respect. Seniors are wiser, we can all hope, but not as durable in most cases. The resilience of youth has usually come and gone.

Anyone wanting to remarry late in life might be wise to talk with other senior newly-weds, their own grown kids, a beloved minister and/or even a counselor. Why not stack the deck favorably?

About the Author

by Luise Volta
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Luise’s life has included careers in nursing, teaching pre-school, interior design, Real Estate sales, insurance adjusting, and dairy herd testing. Visit for Nutrition and Health.

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Astrology is an amazing esoteric science. And it has many answers to these questions.

If you are married, or about to be married, and you’re curious to know what areas in your marriage are the most harmonious, and which areas will possibly cause you some stress, astrology has some answers. There are harmonious aspects between your natal planets that indicate areas that run smoothly, joyfully, and harmoniously. Then there are challenging aspects between your natal planets that indicate areas within your relationship that will be a source of stress. By knowing these areas of harmony and stress, you can help your relationship be the kind of relationship you truly desire. As they say, “to be forewarned is to be forearmed”. So being armed with astrological information can be sort of a guide to your relationship.

If you have recently met someone, or you are in a relationship, and you are hoping that this is “the one”, or your hoping that this is not another one destined for heartbreak, you need to check your interaspects to Chiron. Chiron’s harmonious aspects to Venus, Jupiter, and Neptune hold the promise of a long term relationship and can indicate whether this person is your “soulmate”. However, challenging aspects from Saturn hold a strong possibility of heartbreak sooner or later.

If you want to get married and you are wondering if this person is the marrying type or is a commitment phobe, check his/her natal aspects that help to indicate these personality types.

The composite chart is also something to look at to indicate long term compatibility. This chart represents the relationship itself. It will show you what emotional and circumstantial elements will be present in a long term or committed relationship. You might change your mind when you read this !

Difficult aspects between the personal planets – Sun, Moon, and Venus, to the planets Saturn, Uranus, and Pluto could spell trouble. I nearly guarantee when you read this part of a compatibility report you’ll recognize the “symptoms”. Hope that there’s more harmonious aspects with Venus and Jupiter to counter balance these !

If however, you haven’t walked down the aisle yet and would like to, there are many areas in astrology that will assist your quest for relationship information.

Look to the progressed charts and transits to discover the years where you are most likely to become married, engaged, or commit to a long term relationship. There are even indicators of when there’s a possible wedding month or engagement – just look to the progressed Moon and Part of Fortune.

There is so much wonderful information you can derive from astrology’s tools, to help you make the best decisions for your relationship and for yourself. All it takes is a little time and the desire to make your relationship the best it can be, know your areas of difficulty, and find out ways to make them work.

Astrology will also help you to determine if this is the relationship for you. Why waste time on heartache, when, with a little investigation you can prevent it ! or hold on to your love because this one has a strong probability for long term commitment.

So wouldn’t it be great to have a guidebook on your relationship ? Astrology is the closest thing you’ll get to providing you with the most personal information that reflects this particular relationship, your particular relationship.

About the Author

by Beverly Broeker
. Beverly is passionate about astrology and has focused on the area of compatibility and relationships. She has done extensive research and believes in the validity of astrology to enhance our understanding of our closest relationships. To continue on this journey of astrological investigation, check out this Comprehensive Guidebook or visite her astrology website !

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